About Adrian

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I’m a marriage and family therapist based in Seattle, helping individuals and couples build better relationships throughout Washington.

My style is warm, conversational, and direct. I’m not the type of therapist who sits quietly and nods for an hour—I’ll ask questions, notice patterns, offer perspective, and help us figure out what might actually make things feel different.

I care a lot about helping people have relationships that feel more connected, honest, and actually feel good to be in. I also believe that therapy works best when it’s not overly clinical or formal.

When I’m not working with my clients, I’m usually somewhere in my garden, reading something I can’t put down, or being bossed around by my very spoiled old dogs.

how I work

we’re not just going to talk about what’s wrong.

We’re going to figure out what keeps happening—and why.

My Training + Approach

I’m interested in the patterns underneath the problem. My goal is to focus not just on the argument, anxiety, or disconnection that brought you into therapy, but what keeps pulling you back into the cycle.

We’ll slow those patterns down, understand where they come from, and work on responding differently when they show up. I’ll ask questions, offer perspective, and challenge you when I think it might be useful.

My work is collaborative and tailored to you. I draw from relational, attachment-based, systemic, and evidence-informed approaches rather than following one rigid formula.

what we can work on.

  • For couples who feel stuck in the same patterns and want to feel more connected, understood, and like a team again.

    Common presenting issues:

    • communication + recurring conflict
    • sex, intimacy + desire
    • infidelity + rebuilding trust
    • mental load + domestic labor
    • resentment + disconnection
    • neurodivergence + relationships
    • premarital + relationship transitions
    • separation + discernment

  • For people who want to better understand themselves, their relationships, and the patterns that keep getting in the way.

    Common presenting issues:

    • anxiety + overwhelm

    • dating + relationship patterns

    • sexuality + sexual health

    • boundaries

    • self-esteem

    • family-of-origin dynamics

    • identity

    • life transitions

the work behind the work.

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The slightly more clinical part—what informs the way I work and the training I bring into the room

  • My work is relational, collaborative, and grounded in the belief that you are the expert on your own life. My job isn’t to tell you how to live it, it’s to help you see patterns more clearly, understand what’s keeping them going, and experiment with new ways of interrupting them.

    I’m an active participant in therapy, and I use transparency and appropriate self-disclosure when it’s useful. I’m especially interested in mapping the cycles we get caught in: what triggers them, how each person responds, and how those responses can unintentionally keep the pattern going.

    • Narrative Therapy

    • Emotionally Focused Therapy

    • Solution-Focused Therapy

    • The Gottman Method

    • Postmodern and feminist theories.

  • I earned my master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy from Pacific Lutheran University after studying Political Science and English Literature at Seattle University—and taking a somewhat winding path through politics and a handful of odd jobs along the way.

    I’ve completed additional training in mediation and family mediation, which continues to shape the way I think about conflict, communication, and finding a way forward when people feel stuck.

    I’m a member of:

    • AAMFT

    • WAMFT

    • AASECT

    • IOCDF